Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Time heals all wounds...

It's hard to believe that is true...but it is. Time heals all wounds. At the point of hurt though it seems like nothing will ever be the same again.

Today my daughters heart is heavy, as time goes on she will mend, but for now she hurts. Breaking up with your boyfriend is never easy to do, but it was the right thing to do and it was time.

Now, I need to say here that her boyfriend is a great guy. There truly wasn't anything "wrong" with him, and so to some this may seem crazy to do, but for Kara it was the right time to do it. Both of them knew going into this relationship that this time would come, but that doesn't make it any easier. Nonetheless, he is a great young man and while his heart is also sad at this time, he too will heal with time and he will one day realize that this was a good thing. Let me explain a bit more...

You see he is going to be leaving soon to serve a full time mission for our church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. He will need to focus all of his thoughts towards those with whom he will be called to serve. There will be no room for girlfriends in his thoughts. That's just the way it should be too. He will leave a boy but will return a man. As he serves others & his Heavenly Father he will truly find out who he is and what he is made of. It will be the hardest thing he will have to do and yet the best thing he will ever do all at the same time.

Plus, Kara will be leaving for school soon, and she too needs to be focused on school but more importantly right now for her - she needs to have the freedom to date if the opprotunity arrises. Two years is a long time to wait for someone, especially as young as they are. Lots of things can happen in two years. That said, I am in NO HURRY to marry off my daughter, so I truly hope she is still single in two years and enjoying college.

While it's hard for this to end it was the right thing and at the right time. These past few months they've become the best of friends. They've shared many good times, laughed and cried together. They've shared their thoughts and dreams of life and have known what it's like to love and be loved. They will both heal and while it doesn't feel like it now, it WILL be okay when all is said and done. Who knows what life will bring their way only time will tell.


  1. That was beautifully written, Kim. Thanks for your kind words. Hard as it is, you're right that the time is right and they are great friends.

  2. Great post Kim. You are a great writer and your daughter is lucky to have you as a mother.